Why is he trying to get me pregnant so fast??? Please Help?

My fiance is very jealous, posessive and controlling of me. Stuff like I have to ask permission to do anything. I have to ask him a couple of days in advance if I want to go somewhere and do something and usually its not for more than an hour or two. Like, for example: my sister in law called me and asked if I wanted to come over to her house to hang out for awhile. I asked my fiance and he told me that I cant go over there but if she wants to talk about something important with me than she can come over to our place. I am not allowed to hang out with my one and only female friend. I am not allowed to wear my hair down. Whenever he calls me I have to answer his phone calls cuz if I dont he will break my phone. (he has already broken it once and he pays for it so he can keep better tabs on me.) Those are just a few of the rules that I have. Why is he trying to get me pregnant fast? Please Help!
We have a good relationship as well and maybe he is just overprotective of me cuz he is scared of losing me!

He is most likely trying to get you pregnant because he knows that if you have an infant to take care of, you won’t be able to go out and have fun all the time. He probably also thinks that a baby will tie you to him forever so that you are less likely to leave him. You should definately have a talk with him about his controlling behavior. You are a grown woman and obviously you don’t ask for much except to have some girl time every once in a while (as if you should even have to ask). If he cannot trust you, than he doesn’t deserve you. I’m sure he is just afraid to loose you but if he believes that you will not stay with him unless he keeps a very short leash on you, than he doesn’t know you very well. Do you really want to live a life with someone who won’t allow you any free time of your own? You do not have to listen to him because he is not you boss…if he can’t accept that, than I’d kick him to the curb.

13 Responses

  1. Alzo Says:

    If you like life, dump him. Today.

    If you like being on a leash, continue on as you are.
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  2. patrick ringelman Says:

    It’s like putting his mark on you. When he gets you pregnant he doesn’t have to worry about other dudes wanting to fuck the hell out of you.
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    Me smart

  3. Patrick C Says:

    he is probably thinking its a way to keep you with him.

    or he did something,that will make you overlook because you will have a child together.

    leading back to the first answer.
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  4. Captain Jawa Says:

    He sounds like he is on the brink, and could turn psycho killer at any moment. Run while you still can.
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  5. GiddyGrady Says:

    Wow sounds like you need to not be with him. He is way too jealous and thats why he wants to get you prego. It will only get worse.
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  6. (:wesa Says:

    Seriously. LEAVE HIM.
    It’ll only get worse.
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  7. Juliet Says:

    Maybe it’s not the fact that he is trying to get you pregnant, but he just cares about you a lot. Talk to him and ask him why he feels that way. Why he won’t let you do what you want or let you wear your hair down??? (that’s ridiculous..) If he can’t come up with a good reason or doesn’t have one, maybe things are getting a little creepy and you need to back out of the relationship. If he just is overprotective, assure him things are okay if you go out with friends and tell him it’s still okay to call when he wants when you’re out. See if you can loosen things up a little, if you love him. But personally, I would not like being in a relationship like that and I would just find someone else not so controlling..
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  8. Night Fury Says:

    He wants to get you pregnant so you are bound to him forever, so that you can’t escape him. He wants you to be stuck with him and what better way than with a child? He sounds like a total loser and if you don’t get rid of him your life is gonna be horrible.
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  9. #1 twilight fan<3 Says:

    He is most likely trying to get you pregnant because he knows that if you have an infant to take care of, you won’t be able to go out and have fun all the time. He probably also thinks that a baby will tie you to him forever so that you are less likely to leave him. You should definately have a talk with him about his controlling behavior. You are a grown woman and obviously you don’t ask for much except to have some girl time every once in a while (as if you should even have to ask). If he cannot trust you, than he doesn’t deserve you. I’m sure he is just afraid to loose you but if he believes that you will not stay with him unless he keeps a very short leash on you, than he doesn’t know you very well. Do you really want to live a life with someone who won’t allow you any free time of your own? You do not have to listen to him because he is not you boss…if he can’t accept that, than I’d kick him to the curb.
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  10. blackberry Says:

    One word RUN!
    This is NEVER going to work out, trust me he WILL get worse in time and beat the crap of you for the slightest reason one day, people like this have been known to.
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    Been there

  11. Tiffany Says:

    First, talk to him, make sure he understand how much you love him (if you do) and explain that he is making you uncomfortable.
    Then, if that doesn’t work either seek counseling or break it off with him (Controlling men like that are dangerous and are prone to domestic violence) If he hasn’t already, one day he may hit you.

    Remember, only you control what you do and when you do it. You shouldn’t have to ask permission to see your sister in law or anyone.

    If he doesn’t respect you he isn’t worth it.
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  12. zoom Says:

    <<"maybe he is just overprotective of me cuz he is scared of losing me!">>
    …or maybe you are so scared of losing him and being on your own, that you will put up with an abnormally jealous and controlling boyfriend?

    BTW it doesn’t get better as more time goes by — these guys get worse

    He wants you pregnant so he can secure a definite link to you. He cuts you off from family and friends because he wants to isolate you.
    When he starts beating you, you will have NO ONE left to confide in, to turn to, or to help you get away from him.

    These guys are dangerous.

    And simply, NOT worth your love.
    I know you think he must really really ‘love’ you to behave like this, but nope, he doesn’t behave like this because of love, he is a pathological man, not quite right in his head.

    Do you have the right to break up with him? Or do you have to get his clearance first?
    Get the hell away from this man, because in a very short time he will escalate his jealous behaviors, and your life will become a LIVING HELL.

    If you think it’s tough to escape now, it will seem far worse by the end of this year.
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  13. Kallie Horse Girl Says:

    This is spouse abuse. My mothers friend (who is like a second mother to me) was in this situation. He is restricting you, and trying to possess you completely. You need to get out of there. You do not want to be in this situation. I think you should call off the wedding, and leave that relationship. It gets worse as the years go by. You shouldn’t be ordered around like that. Your fiance has no say in what you do. You do not need his permission, he is not your parent! You are old enough that you do not need to be treated like a child. He is not being protective of you! Get out of there!
    Leaving will be the hardest thing you ever do. I suggest that you see a councilor… it helps, and there is nothing wrong with getting advice and strategies to help you cope.

    If things come to worse, move in with a friend or family member, and don’t let him know where you are. You can do this. You need to be brave… Leave while you can. I’m really worried about you, and so is your sister in law..
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    My mothers friend (like my 2nd mother to me). This happened to her, and she was in a relationship with the guy for 10 years…

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